You certainly dont get to choose your parents but later in your life you can always choose people who are around you. When you do that dont run for acceptance, dont look for validation. Be self aware and only keep sensible people around, who are gentle and kind and always say when you are wrong and support when you are slightly stupid on your dream.
These people are capable of traumatizing you. The closer the person, the higher the chances.
But when you dont have a choice to leave them, be careful about sharing your life choices or control over life choices of yours.
The matter is not how big or small it is. It's about how much that matters to you personally.
So only allow people who are gentle and kind to be in your circle and also be patient, kind and gentle with others.